, you often feel a greater sense of fullness, joy, warmth, connection and openness (to name a few qualities). It’s up to you to decide when you want to take a chance at love again. That is, as long as your opening to love is associated with someone else, it has limits. It exists independently of whether you’re aware of it or not. Opening up to someone or falling in love with someone will always be risky and the outcome will never be guaranteed, but as with everything in life, some things are totally worth the risk, sometimes taking the risk is the only way you can actually feel alive. – Avoid blaming or hurting their feelings. Be clear, be honest, focus on the future and don’t pass the blame on to anyone, including yourself, and you’ll get through it. – Trying to prevent leaving on a sour note. It’s an example of the kind of behavior that turns you off of the relationship, but don’t generalize. Fortunately, there has been research on the best way to compassionately break up with someone. When you love someone, you don’t usually think too much about what’s actually happening. But that doesn’t mean you need to break someone in two while breaking their heart. 5. You may unsubscribe at any time. Ben believes stillness and sensitivity are superpowers available to anyone. So you can consciously engage your heart in a tangible way to deepen your personal relationship to love. Click here. In time, someone will come into your life with love and so much more. Plans that don’t involve tears and heartaches. Have you ever had the feeling your love was limited because it was attached to someone else? We don’t need to judge either one, but we can recognize that each one feels quite different. Here are 5 ways for you to be more open. Your heart is the part of you that knows. Take your time to get to know someone new. Pick up that book and finish that video game. Do the right thing by them and tell them in person. Understanding what’s happening when you love someone isn’t necessary to love them. We are each on our own journeys and we should trust that our story will eventually have a happy ending. Notice what happens in your heart when you think of them. Also, as I mentioned above, it’s important to keep in mind whether you’ve actually given the relationship a chance to resolve its issues. That should be adhered to throughout the breakup as well. What happens in your heart when you feel the love for them? But don’t ask how they’re doing a day after the breakup. According to Rachel Sussman, a New York City psychotherapist and author of The Breakup Bible,“Spend some time soul-searching, journaling, talking to a really good friend or family member or talking to a relationship specialist” to make sure you know exactly why you’re breaking up. It points to things we can feel. Immerse yourself into it. See how deeply you can let yourself feel it. Our online workshops are available at Ideapod Academy. Although love can be painful and heart-breaking, be willing to open your heart anyway. Answer any questions as honestly as you can.”.