My boyfriend is not a planner – it’s just not his way. Nope, she says she's tired and wants to go back to Skype her friends. I tell myself all the time – “I can’t want more for someone than they want for themselves.” Give only what you can with no expectations and focus on taking care of you.… Read more ». I was so fucking pissed. Hope that helps! right to change plans when you feel like it. I’m so glad you liked the article! And the best part – when you are being your real self, you’ll attract the right friends! So, I have this guy best friend who also has a thing for me. But when people change personal plans on me I get really upset. If you are looking for resources for people with bi-polar disorder, check out the National Institute of Mental Health’s website. Black mafia family. I just wish people could plan ahead and not suddenly change on a dime and do something completely different to what we were initially going to do. If you can’t take care of your personal needs, things are way over the top. Good luck! I am so, so sorry! You’ll also see where I state that if you can’t let something go, talk with a professional counselor. My dad calls me mean, and that really hurts me because if I am mean that what will happen if I get in a relationship later in life? i dont like his behaviour commenting on my personal life choices. Thanks so much, Thrisha! It might be better to reach out to someone else who would be glad to have your friendship. Get enough sleep? What? I let a co-worker get under my skin as they are lazy. You are my star student!! Keep doing things that you think are cool – and you may be surprised that you are actually reaching one or two – they just aren’t brave enough to show it. Assume they will never change. Don’t inadvertently enable the behavior. Awww! I am so sorry you are going through this! i am have problem on the school with a fourth grade she is in middle school and am in high school my last year i have been have a problem with this girl. in fact, i would give that status freely without her asking). Let’s say your friend is quite overweight and loves sweets. Keep a journal, write a letter, do whatever it takes to talk it out. And by focusing on trying to get them to do what you want, you are making yourself miserable. Can you focus on the good more than the bad? Thanks for the comment! Planners tend to look I’ve been searching, learning and meditating trying to fix these issues: 1.How do I deal with toxic family members? We are all the center of our own universes. What to do? Ever. I hope you can ease him out of… Read more ». Your worrying, obsessing, venting, etc. So glad you liked the article! And we shouldn’t. 30 mins pass. Brett – thanks for your comment – hope those tears go away and you find the people who will make you smile! But when people change personal plans on me I get really upset. Your email address will not be published. Most Being an Indian I live with my family. Good luck with the 16 year-old! If you want to try again – by all means, do so. Your email address will not be published. Ultimately you have to decide, but here’s what I’d do – stop giving these people money! She is an expert on achieving more success with less stress. i was told by the bus driver to sit in the first seat. There will always be uncaring, frustrating co-workers, but you have to take care of you! I find that people stop teasing if their teasing doesn’t seem to bother you. I always try to have a good time even if I have a tough audience – I consider that the best revenge. And you can either leave their messes or you can clean up the messes, but you can’t force them to change. We’ve gone through number of break ups because I’m short tempered and way too straightforward. Sure! So proud of you!! my mother is a very short-tempered lady, she through her actions and words hurt me and my other family members but i am the most affected by it and can’t resist crying or being upset and most importantly i can’t even break up with her but every other i am in a position to cry because of her , i tries talking to her and she doesn’t accept her fault even if she does . Problems with neighbors are the worst! Do I believe that people who do not have mental illness have some control over their emotions and reactions? other side thinks. think they’re going to a movie with you on a Friday night, they will go details such as, which movie you’ll see, where and when, planners can How can I get through to her that this subject is upsetting me and I can’t hear it anymore. In order to submit a comment to this post, please write this code along with your comment: b6ef10423cec036b14b445c5f8112efd. If you’re here, you may be a planner. [Or not](http://www.toothpastefordinner.com/062808/your-personality-type.gif). I was quick to point out occasions where his lack of planning cost him (I’m such a charmer!). Not taking behavior personally is a big training piece that gets hit on time and time again, but as a teacher, I naturally wear my heart on my sleeves and try to make it so everyone is learning and growing. That lazy co-worker who isn’t doing their share of the work? I’m not condoning any of the behaviors – I’m just asking you to look at the only person you can control – you. Thanks so much for sharing (and don’t be sorry – rant all you want!).