Grandma: Could I please trouble you for a warm glass of milk. Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, an author, and the Director of Research and Education for the Glendon Association. I work with Dr Firestone and inreading your comment. Yet, it isn’t long before we punish ourselves for messing up. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.”, “In my life I’ve learned that true happiness comes from giving. It can feel scary to surpass the way we’ve previously seen ourselves or been seen. No one else can tell us what will make you happy or what’s most important to you. Then start looking for a company that espouses similar values. Stop what you’re doing once in a while and ask your colleagues their pets, their children, their hobbies. 18. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.”, “The fact is always obvious much too late, but the most singular difference between happiness and joy is that happiness is a solid and joy a liquid.”, “Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”, “On the whole, the happiest people seem to be those who have no particular cause for being happy except that they are so.”, “There are two ways of being happy: We must either diminish our wants or augment our means – either may do – the result is the same and it is for each man to decide for himself and to do that which happens to be easier.”, “If a person’s basic state of mind is serene and calm, then it is possible for this inner peace to overwhelm a painful physical experience. If we fall in love, we start making excuses to pull away. I’m reminded of some scenes from the movie Happy-Go-Lucky, when the cheery main character Poppy takes driving lessons from a sour instructor.As … Our defenses are like armor we built against whatever hurt us. Try to choose the qualities you want to emulate and reject those you don’t. You have to catch it yourself.”, “Can anything be so elegant as to have few wants, and to serve them one’s self?”, “The habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of outward conditions.”, “You can only have bliss if you don’t chase it.”, “Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”, “If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.”, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. There are countless benefits to finding a job that makes you happy, not the least of which is not having to suffer from the Sunday night blues, the Monday morning misery, the Tuesday terrors or…well you get our point. As a member, you can upload up to five versions of your resume—each tailored to the types of jobs that interest you. If we take the risk and drop our defenses, we make it more likely we will achieve true happiness. Copyright © 2020 Life is too short to be unhappy.”, “Happiness is the experience of loving life. He who values the merits of others, and in their pleasure takes joy, even as though it were his own.”, “You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”, “Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”, “The happiness which is lacking makes one think even the happiness one has unbearable.”, “It’s been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will.”, “If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled.